Dating a man 18 years older
Doris may be a bit clueless, but the movie doesn't deny Field her sexuality.At one point, hipsters at a concert assume that John is sleeping with her.But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows what Snapchat is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.And the truth is that most of them are completely creeped out at the prospect of dating a guy who was alive when JFK was alive. Now in my mid 40’s though, the idea of dating someone in their 60’s does seem like a big difference in terms of where we each are in life. Time creates wisdom – but it also creates responsibilities and complications – mortgage, kids, career, etc.All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.In Amy Schumer's "Last Fuckable Day" sketch, Sally Field is a punch line.
The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.Hey, I’m no psychologist – just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation gap between 28 and 45.Sure, Doris is sort of dotty, and she certainly has no idea how to seduce a man, but she's still seen as desirable., but she's also portrayed as a boy-crazy lady who ruins lives.
Cinematic women who engage in affairs with younger men are often sexy, but also broken in some way or another.But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.